I feel that it if fitting to start my first blog post with the title “Am I Okay”. In the past week alone at least a dozen people have asked me that question. I have had acquaintances, friends, family and some persons that I thought had forgotten I even existed contact me in regards to me being okay. I began to wonder what exactly have I done for so many people to be asking that question? Have I changed my appearance, my attitude or anything to attribute to my presence as a person? Have I changed anything in my social media platform in regards to the content that I post or my consistency? What is everyone seeing that I am not seeing in myself?
To shed some light on me as a person I would describe myself as informed. People gravitate towards me in a way that makes them comfortable to carry on a personable conversation with usually very little limitations. I am very much a people person and love conversation. I would say I am an easily likable person. Of course that is what I would say…. Others have described me as initially intimidating and tough to speak with until the effort is made to actually have a conversation. Once I get to know you I tend to initiate conversation very regularly and always seem to ask the question “How are you today?” or “How’s it going?”. If you are a closer friend and I know you more intimately I may ask about a certain circumstance going on in your life but all the same the question I always tend to ask is How’s it going? So that’s kinda me, the person that is always wondering about other people and always free to share my opinion or my experience in relation to something that you may be going through. So why is it all of a sudden I am being asked that question of “Am I Okay”?
I’ll be honest I didn’t put much thought into everyone asking that question until a distant friend I haven’t spoken with or seen in months text me that very question. Kinda strange how the universe works sometimes. Now please understand that her text wasn’t anything alarming or different from anyone else asking the same question but the irony involved made me question myself and the thought of being okay. Again I ask all the questions to myself as I stated in the first paragraph only to conclude the following…. I stopped asking.
I didn’t stop asking because I stopped caring. I didn’t stop asking because I was getting no response. I didn’t stop asking because people never asked back. I just simply stopped asking. Basically I didn’t stop asking for any particular reason. To everyone reading this that is an acquaintance of mine, a friend or even a family member I would like to ask are you okay? I think you’ll find that a very difficult question to answer. It’s not difficult in terms of simplicity but seriously think about that question. Are you okay? I will be the first to speak in generalities and tell you that yes I am okay but I will also tell you there are a lot of things in my life I am not okay with. I think you will find the same holds true to you. Overall the general feeling is that we are all okay but that doesn’t really mean a whole lot when you dig deeper now does it. Next time you’re ask that question I employ you to answer with “Yes I am okay but ________” and see where the conversation leads. Or if you are the person asking the question and the vague response is “yeah I am okay” follow up with something to dig deeper and show that you truly care. I mean after all if we are going to ask that question shouldn’t we want to know more then if the person we are speaking to is okay or not? If we are going to answer that question don’t we really want to say more then yes I am okay? I challenge you to start today and ask that follow up question or answer that question with just a little more detail.
Let me start by saying I am not okay. In general I am okay but lots of things in life are screwed up and how we as a human race treat one another is disheartening. Be kind and show love. Keep your mind open to other peoples perspectives and treat others the way you would like to be treated. I am in no way saying change who you are to conform to others but be respectful to get respected. To all those who know me personally I would like to say thank you for sharing your lives with me and as you know I am always here when you need a friend.