It’s the beginning of the new year. I do not make resolutions however I do make goals. My long term goal is to learn to accept those things in life that I can not control or change.
Author: christopherjzarate
“In Between”
We were born not by our own choice. The only guarantee we have is that of death. The only complaint about life that we can make is not that of life and death but the choices that we make in between. No matter of the circumstances we are born in to we are all faced with choices that can better our lives or make our circumstances in life worse. Just remember that your life is yours and you alone make the choices for your own “in between”. Live your best life in your own “in between” don’t let others dictate your choices. Regret nothing and learn from everything.
Happiness
The truth is that you can do a lot to show people that you care. You can be proud of their accomplishments. You can shower them with gifts. You can express all the love in the world. You can even provide tough love to help them grow as an individual. You can express through hugs, kisses and handshakes. You could do all of the above and so much more but what you can not do is make a person happy. Happiness is the responsibility of oneself.
Sure it makes people happy to know that others care. That others feel proud. That others are willing to gift them with praise and material things. And of course who doesn’t like a good hug, kiss or handshake? But it is the responsibility of ones self to obtain their peak happiness.
(I started this back in May and never finished. I think I will post unfinished and let anyone reading this finish the blog themselves. If you don’t blog that is okay just mentally finish the above. If you do blog feel free to copy and paste or finish with a comment. Some times unfinished work is more complete then finished work)
Sketches Pt2
Sketches
Person Inside You
“But don’t forget who you really are. And I’m not talking about your so-called real name. All names made up by someone else, even the one your parents gave you. You know who you really are. When you’re alone at night, looking up at the stars, or maybe lying in your bed in total darkness, you know that nameless person inside you.” -Louis Sachar
I love this quote. Think about the raw truth in the message. You can take away the name given to you and change it to whatever you’d like but when you are alone with yourself that is truly who you are. Nobody really ever knows the real you. You can tell someone they know you more then anyone and that may be true but only with the exception of you. It’s in those moments of solitude that speak the most to anyone. When you have those conversations with yourself. When you look in the mirror and reflect on the soul looking back at you. Who is the person inside you? Do you know that the person? Something to think about…
Think about it..
At some point you realize that you have done too much and that the next possible step is to stop. Leave it alone. Walk away. It’s not like you’re giving up and it’s not like you shouldn’t try. It’s just that you have to draw the line of determination from desperation. What is truly yours would eventually be yours, and what is not, no matter how hard you try, will never be.
Think about it!
Mumbled Mess
The sunshine’s another day through the remaining grey clouds from the storm the night before. So fitting is the mood for the day. Descriptions through words could not do justice to the feelings of the heart. The absence of what once was will never be filled. We give pieces of us to everyone we love not expecting to ever feel such a loss when they choose to leave. Caring is painful. Take a moment to reflect on different people that you have loved and the pain that was involved. Can you thing of a situation when there was no pain in loving. Even a parent feels the pain when their child grows to no longer depend on them. OF course we will always need our parents but the feeling of loss for them is still great. Think of that loved one that passed without a goodbye. Think of a friend that drifted apart. Think of an ex-boyfriend/husband or ex-girlfriend/wife. Do you get the point?? Please challenge this rational line of thinking. Keep in mind everything referred to are relationships of the Human kind not the spiritual kind. IF you are a believer in anything spiritual this is not that debate. Caring or Love is painful. So why do we love one another if we are aware that with this feeling and responsibility comes pain. We do so because caring is what makes us feel alive. Love is a reminder of mortality. Through the ages we have longed as a species to be remembered. If you live what is the point without leaving an impression on those you meet. Loving is the impression some of us choose to leave. So to all those reading I Love You. I may not agree with the choices you make in life. I may not have handled situations between us the corrected way but I promise every action was a reaction. I am humbled by the silence that many have elected to show me in life. For those that have made the choice to keep me in check in life I would like to say thank you. Remember me for being the person that would give the shirt off his back and his last dollar if it meant making sure someone he cared about could benefit from that shirt or that dollar. I am not flawed in caring I am flawed by caring about others more then myself. Choices I make in life seem selfish at times but when you look at the bigger picture and from my perspective I have always made the choice to help those that needed help. I have neglected many people in my life but most of all I have neglected my own self. So non specific is this post and so cryptic it would seem but please as a reader don’t overthink. I am unable to actually see who reads my post so please do me a favor and don’t ask me what this post is about or if this post is about you. If you feel like this post relates to you at all it probably does and if you read and think what a nut job he is then you didn’t get it and that is okay. Below are a few of my favorite quotes so enjoy and thank you for reading.
It’s never about being good enough for someone. That’s not your choice to make they made that for you when they choose you. Don’t strive to be good enough, strive to be the best you that you can be…
Never lose yourself while trying to hold onto someone who doesn’t care about losing you…
I’m always going to love you, and I’m going to hate me for not being enough…
The more you love, the more you suffer…
The greatest gift one can give is their love. That love picks you up when your down. That love that protects you. That love shows no limitations. That love that nobody really deserves. Not that what have you done lately. Not that I am passing through again love. Not that temporary love….
Beware of destination addiction: The idea that happiness is in the next place, the next job or even the next partner. Until you give up the idea that happiness is somewhere else, it will never be where you are…
If you’re allowing it then don’t complain about it. You deserve exactly what you settle for…
TODAY
This day will suck…
This day will suck because…
There are really no words to describe why this day will suck…
This day will suck for me…
This day will only suck for me…
To think…
To think I had a chance…
To THINK that is the truth…
It’s so much easier to tell the truth
Mountain From a MoleHill
Hey everyone reading and thank you for taking the time out of your life to read some words from this Human.
The title should be familiar to many and if not I will explain. My grandmother always told me growing up to stop making a mountain from a molehill. It basically means making too much of minor issues. So in my life its turning all the little things into a bigger issue causing a mountain and driving people away at times or at least making it hard to deal with me. To give you insight I am going to talk about a flaw of mine and try explain my thought process and more then likely get lost in the middle of hundreds of words. Get ready for a ride on the Chris Brain Train.
So I make mountains out of the little things. I always have. I look at life as a puzzle and I feel like all things are connected. I overthink. Raise your hand if you do the same. It builds and builds driving those close to me crazy. The thing is in my mind all issues no matter how small are connected. I can turn a simple comment made into a debate on judgment. It’s really ridiculous. So for all those ready that know me I sincerely apologize for how I may react to little issues and turn them to something they should have never turned into. But…….
Even the smallest issues matter. Take a second and ponder that. Think of it like this, your mother or father had a issue with something you did as a child and their reaction was to address the issue and correct the behaviour. Was this right or wrong? Depends on the issue and how you were raised but either way we have been groomed from a young age to address even the smallest of issues whether others agree or not on our view point. Let me guess you think at this point I am trying to get out of behaviour that I have…you’re wrong. See I believe the best way to explain things is through my thought process. Flawed maybe but you can begin to understand my point from my perspective. In a friendship there are many quirks that drive you crazy about your friends. So small issues you may have are excess talking, opinions, nervous ticks and maybe failed fashion. As friends we see fit to address those issue in an attempt to help our friends. But are we helping? In a relationship you address small issues that make you insecure instead of trusting you build a complex overthought out puzzle. You create a mountain that really just builds a wall. But none the less I still feel that even the smallest issues no matter the type of relationship should be addressed. ADDRESSED no corrected. See correction is a word that places a fault or wrong. We are all different and my issues are not the same issues you may have. Address don not attempt to correct.
I have been told that my opinions (advise) that I have given in the past was too strong. I made the other person feel like no matter what they said I was pushing my opinions as if they were the gold standard. I am sorry. See I have been through a great deal in life. I was molested when I was young. I experimented with sex very early on. I had a drug problem. I had a gambling problem. I have truly seen more then most people would realize and experienced things no one should have too. So when I give advise or my opinion I promise it comes from a good place. It really comes from the heart. I apologize to all that I have offended or who have felt I was pushing my ideals. If you are readying this and know me please know that I have only ever wanted the best for each and everyone one of you. We all have to live and learn through our choices and please take my advise and opinions for what they are, my advise and opinions.
The take away..
I make mountains out of molehills and I push my opinion on others. This is a correct assumption of who I might be seen as but let me quickly express my view.
I take small issues and try to understand the thought process to a point it pisses people off because i can make it make sense. I give my opinion out of care and concern so people do not make the mistakes I have made in the past. I offer my advise as a guide partnered with my opinion to give people a differently perspective on how the outcome could be. Of course I completely understand that just because things went a certain way for me doesn’t warrant the same out come for others. But it could and that what I offer. I offer the what if, I ask the why and I try and address the smallest of issues. Of course I would be a liar if I didn’t admit to trying to correct some but again we are groomed to do so at times.
This was word vomit at its best. Thanks for reading. Just remember that before you make those mountains think first. I am going to get better at keeping issues as molehills and try my best from forming mountains. At the same time remember just because somebody makes mountain doesn’t always mean they know. If you know someone like me please be link them to this blog…Just kidding allow for some patience and understand maybe its because they truly care for you.
