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The truth is always somewhere in between two perspectives. We all view certain instances differently. So naturally the latter makes sense. Can you think of a time where the truth was somewhere in between ? Can you think of a time when you were so convinced your perspective was completely accurate only later to find it was partially accurate?

Our truths may seem 100% but keep in mind the different perspectives. IYKYK

Keep an open mind in life and try be more open to other perspectives.

My youngest

Tandan 6months
When Jaxon was 2
Me (Christopher)

So many similarities between me and my youngest. My oldest is more of a blend between us but for right now the young one favors me. Blessed to have two healthy kiddos during these times. Both were very born early but bounced back quickly. 12 years apart but it’s my hope that they will become close. If you have Kiddos give them a kiss and tell them you love them cause time goes by way to fast.

Baby me

The beginning years

It’s so wild to think sometimes that we all started this small. So new, so incapable and so innocent. I truly believe we grow into what we choose to be. We all have the ability through the years to begin making choices that can shape what we continually evolve into being. Even now at 41 years of age the choices I make can determine the next years of my life. That is the same for all of us. Consider the young ones in your individual lives and what impact you may have on their choices. Whether it be a son or daughter, niece or nephew and even a grandchild. What about the all the loved ones in your life? Reach out and say hello from time to time. Check in. Life is as precious in the beginning as it is in the middle or even the end. Hold each day in high regards and be thankful for another day. Those in your lives that’s may be struggling lend your ear. Sometimes listening can make all the difference. Strive to be the best you that you can be. Just my two sense. Have a blessed day!

Fathers Day

Happy Father’s Day to all the fathers. I am one of the luckier ones whose father has always been just that a father. Of course growing up we didn’t always see eye to eye and still to this day we don’t always agree but the respect I have for him is unmatched. He made sure to provide the best for his family and did his absolutely best to make sure we had what we needed to survive. He taught me that hard work can get you as far as you want to go in life but also made sure to stress to me never to forget where I came from. Having the responsibility of others and operating a business can be stressful but I always look back at that lesson my dad taught me to never forget where I came from. As a leader it’s my responsibility to set the example and motivate my team through action at times. I don’t think my dad ever expected the lesson to stick we need my whole life but it has. He instilled with me a work ethic that we don’t see much anymore in our young adults and children. I am extremely appreciative of the little lessons my father has taught me through the years and can only hope a little bit rubs off on my children as well. To all the fathers out there doing what it takes to ensure their families are taken care of on a daily basis, Thank you and bless you. I hope you were able to spend time with your families today and enjoy some time to yourself perhaps. Keep grinding and keep teaching. Keep being a father. And to all the fathers out there taking care of children that are not biologically theirs I’d like to say Thank you and you’re freaking awesome. Keep doing what you’re doing as Father figures and please know even though it’s tough at times you slate extremely appreciated and loved.

To all the absent dads out there that have choose not to be part of your children’s lives you need to know it’s never to late. Get your shit together and make the effort to be in your kids lives. Do what you must to protect that relationship and salvage what you can. Children need their fathers, young adults need their fathers and adults need their fathers. Get your minds right and take some responsibility. Make an effort. If someone else is taking care of your kids make sure to say thank you and show some appreciation.

Childhood Prayer

Did anyone else grow up saying this prayer …

Now I lay me down to sleep. I pray the lord my soul to keep. Angel watch me through the night and wake me with the morning light.

Then we would follow that with “and watch over mommy, daddy, brother and sister. Watch over grandma, grandpa, aunts and uncles. Watch over cousins, friends, everybody else and me it’s in your name I pray amen.”

Don’t know why but it’s come to mind lately. I pray that everyone is safe. If you haven’t heard it today I love you. Thank you for being you.

Existing

Continuing to see how many countless lives are lost on a daily basis can be upsetting. I am so beyond grateful for my life and the lives of anyone connected to my life. I would wish untimely death on absolutely nobody. The one thing I am completely afraid of is death. It’s not knowing what comes next or how I die but the idea that I one day will cease to exist on this earth. I have made memories with many and have been blessed with family and friends but to know that all goes away is a scary feeling. It makes me extremely sad. It causes me much anxiety. I can not imagine the loss of a parent or a spouse. I can not imagine the loss of one of my children. My whole heart aches with the tragic events we all see in the news. No explanation is needed or would be warranted. The fact is lives have been taken way to soon. I pray for those families. I also pray for our families and our children growing up in the world today. It’s not the same place I grew up in 30 years ago. Please take a moment to reflect on your life and how much it means to you. Then as you reflect do the same for those closest to you. As you do that reflect on the lives and memories of those you’ve lost along the way. Then do me one more favor and tell those around you to do the same. Change starts with a mindset. Change will not come from politics or governments. Change will only come when we change each other’s hearts. Love one another. It’s much easier to love then to hate. If you haven’t heard it today, I love you. Stay safe and stay blessed.

Dreams

I have some of the absolute weirdest dreams. I dream of people in my past merging into my present day. It’s always comforting to see the familiar faces of those that were at one point so close to my heart. Every time I have one of these dreams I am jolted awake my by brain flooding itself of the memories of the past. It often leave me awake for hours in the middle of the night wondering about those people and how they are doing. I miss them.

It’s odd though as most people through the years tend to change. They grow to be different versions of the people they once were but someone inside is always that person who you once were. I reflect a lot more then most of who I was versus who I am now. I would like to think that a lot of who I was is still there and would be recognizable to those from my past. I would like to also think I have matured and grown as a person to become more understanding and a person of more patience. I am proud of the person I am and the life I have created for myself and am appreciative for those currently in my life. Part me yearns for those reconnecting moments with people that I held so closely to my heart during the journey to where I am now. That opportunity to have a conversation or meeting to catch up and to get a glimpse of their lives today.

We were all part of each other’s lives at some point. To be able to have those paths cross again at a different stage I think would be interesting. I would love to hear the opinions of me now versus me then. Dreams ever connect us to each other through the memories that were made. I am grateful for my dreams but at times they leave me longing for a connection that I worry I will never feel again.